Tips to Choose the Best Boudoir Photographer

February 3, 2024

Find the Best Photographer for You

So you’re considering a boudoir photography session, kudos to you! As a professional boudoir photographer, I’ve seen firsthand how transformative and empowering these sessions can be. Choosing the best photographer for you is crucial for a comfortable, luxurious experience that celebrates you. So, let’s dive into how you can find your perfect boudoir photographer!

Understanding Boudoir Photography

What is Boudoir Photography?

Before we jump into finding your ideal photographer, let’s briefly touch on what boudoir photography is all about. It’s a photographic style that captures intimate, romantic, and sometimes erotic images in a bedroom or private setting. It’s about celebrating your body, your spirit, and your journey.

Why Choose Boudoir Photography?

For most of my clients, a boudoir session is a way to celebrate themselves. It could be a milestone birthday, an act of self-love, or simply a desire to see themselves through a new, empowering lens.

Finding the Best Boudoir Photographer

Research is Key

Start by researching online. Look at photographers’ portfolios to see whose style resonates with you. Do you prefer moody and dramatic, or light and airy photos? Remember, a good photographer’s style should align with your vision.  Asking a bright and airy photographer to shoot dark and moody could end up leaving you disappointed. When in doubt, hop onto Pinterest and see what images light you up. You’ll likely find out pretty quickly what style of boudoir photography is right for you.

Read Reviews and Testimonials

Don’t just rely on the photos. Read what previous clients have said. Look for testimonials from women with similar backgrounds or reasons for their shoot. Their experiences can give you great insight.  I remember a client who came to me for her 40th birthday. She expressed to me on our phone call how nervous she was and that this was super far outside of her comfort zone. She told me that reading the reviews on my website was the thing that gave her enough courage to reach out to me.  After reading reviews from women in similar situations, she felt more at ease knowing they had positive experiences.

The Consultation

Importance of a Pre-Session Consultation

A pre-session consultation is a must. This is where you get a feel for the photographer’s personality and approach. You should feel comfortable and connected with them.

Questions to Ask

Ask about their process, how they direct and pose clients, what packages they offer, and how they ensure privacy and comfort. This is also the time to discuss your vision and any concerns.

Making a Connection

I always emphasize the importance of connection and it’s the main reason I require a phone call with potential clients.  During consultations, I share stories, laugh, and really get to know my clients. It’s about building trust and understanding.  You will be much less nervous for your shoot if you’ve had at least a phone call with your photographer and that even goes for the ladies out there who despise talking on the phone!

Understanding Pricing and Packages

What’s Included?

Boudoir photography is an investment. Understand what’s included in the package – the session time, number of outfits, types of prints or albums, and any extras like hair and makeup services.

Value vs. Cost

Don’t just go for the cheapest option. Trust me on this. Consider the value of the experience and the quality of the final product. Remember, this is more than just photos; it’s an experience and a form of self-expression.  A true professional is going to have lots of overhead and expenses and that will be reflected in the cost.

Preparing for Your Session

Getting Ready

Once you’ve chosen the best photographer for you, it’s time to prepare. Pick outfits that make you feel confident and beautiful. Some photographers offer wardrobe consultations, which can be incredibly helpful.  I send out an amazing Shoot Planner that goes over every single detail in regards to preparing for your photoshoot.

Mental Preparation

It’s normal to feel nervous. I always advise my clients to focus on the excitement of the experience. This is one of those events where you just need to let go of control, trust your chosen photographer and surrender into the experience.  Embrace your own unique beauty and the journey you’re on. Remember, this is a celebration of you!

During the Session: Embrace the Experience

Trust Your Photographer

On the day of the shoot, trust your photographer. They’re there to guide you and make you look and feel amazing. Remember, they’re professionals who’ve seen it all – every body type, every level of nervousness. 

Enjoy the Moment

Breathe, relax, and enjoy the session. This is your time to shine. Let go of any insecurities and embrace the empowering experience. Stay present.  The shoot will fly by and you won’t believe how fast it goes.

The Transformation

I’ve seen countless women transform during their sessions. They start off shy and gradually open up, revealing their strength and beauty. It’s a magical process to witness and be a part of.

After the Session: Cherishing Your Images

The Reveal

Post-session, you’ll typically have a reveal session to see your images. For my clients it’s typically only a week or two later.  It’s a special moment, often filled with lots of emotions. Prepare to be amazed at how stunning you look!  

Choosing Your Favorites

Decide on your favorite images and how you want to display them. Whether it’s a beautiful album or wall art, these are keepsakes that will always remind you of this time in your life.

Sharing (If You Want)

Remember, these images are for you. You decide if and with whom you want to share them. It’s all about what makes you feel comfortable and empowered.  A professional will always ask you for permission in writing before sharing any of your images.

Are You Ready?

Choosing the right boudoir photographer is a journey that should be approached with excitement and a bit of research. It’s an opportunity to see yourself in a new light, to celebrate your journey, and to create lasting memories. Trust your instincts, do your homework, and get ready for an incredibly empowering experience. You deserve this, and I can’t wait for you to see just how beautiful you are, inside and out!

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As a photographer, the significance of intent cannot be overstated. I create photographs of women for themselves first and foremost. While some clients may choose to share their pictures with their significant others, my primary objective is to craft imagery for YOU first and foremost. I want you to look at your images and FEEL something. I want your images make you feel powerful, confident and self aware. I want your images to remind you of where you are right now. What you’ve overcome and where you are heading.

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